10 Simple Flirty Techniques to Turn Him on FAST and Make Him Chase
I get it. You want to turn him on with little to no rejection.
Perhaps I shouldn’t share these secrets to help you dominate us men…
…actually on second thought.
Maybe I should.
If you want to arm yourself with simple flirting techniques to turn him on, that guy you either just met or met but barely know then keep reading.
#1 Flirting Key: Us Men Love Playfulness
Flirting is nothing more than playfulness and we find it more fun and easier to interact with you to release the tension (while building it up too).
These tips will show (or remind you) how to hack our minds.
With these new techniques, you can turn chance situations with men you meet IRL (In Real Life) into exchanging of contact information rather than gawking at him or kicking yourself for nothing happening.
But these flirty techniques also turn you into a sensual and sexual machine with men you’ve started to date to turn up the heat when you can’t stand the sexual tension any longer.
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All of these suggestions are flirty but nothing dirty.
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1. Confident Introduction
Let’s start with the simplest approach to turn him on instantly- the Confident Introduction.
As you and I can agree, nothing comes across sexier and more attractive than pure confidence.
And when you approach him to introduce yourself with an “I-like-you smile” and say, “Hello, I’m (your name). I don’t think we’ve met,” while extending your hand out for a handshake, guys will find that attractive.
This last line works better on the job because it assumes you’ve crossed paths but haven’t talked yet.
And it can work for other situations where you frequent a location like a gym, same coffee shop, church, regular events that you attend, a local park, etc.
But if it is likely that this is the first time you’ve ever seen the guy then you would just omit the “I don’t think we’ve met”.
In some of the situations mentioned here in this post, you could start the conversation and then introduce yourself.
Just do not do it in a business-like manner.
When you introduce yourself, the key to turn him on is to express your attraction through your body language.
Incorporate locked eye contact, smile, head tilt, and somewhat of a submissive chin-down while eyes looking slightly upward.
And if the situations where you’ve already started to flirt then the introduction becomes even sexier and bigger way to turn him on.
2. Choose and Routinely Spray on the RIGHT Perfume
Brand yourself with a signature perfume or body spray that men will associate its fragrance to you.
Us men cannot resist the woman who wears the perfect perfume that suits her style of dress and personality (outgoing or introverted)
Choose the one that fits your style and personality..
I’m nowhere near an expert in this topic so read this article Fragrance Profile: Choosing a Perfume that Suits Your Personality.
3. Simple Flirty, Playful Remarks and Questions
Leave the serious conversations for work and business.
But tease the shit out the guys you like.
This technique will work better with men you already know or if you are very confident and outgoing around new men.
ALL the women who have success with attracting men know how to seduce and pull them in with effective flirting techniques.
It builds up sexual tension as she pushes and pulls on his emotions.
Not sure what to say to turn him on?
Just think of the five senses: sight, smell, taste, sound, feel. Although taste might be better for guys that already like you or that are obviously flirting with you, like on a date.
- “Do you get embarrassed when a girl compliments your smile?” This is very assumptive that all women find this one trait you attractive which makes a bigger impact than insinuating that it’s just your personal preference. (sight)
- “Hmm, love your cologne. You could break hearts wearing that.” (smell)
- “Did anyone ever mention that you get dimples when you laugh or smile?” (sight)
- “You know something I noticed about you? You’ve got a real manly walk.” (sight)
- “Hmm, your shoulders are rock hard.” (touch)
- “It’s hard not to notice your smile. You could spot it across the room.” (sight)
- “Do you get a lot of compliments about your laugh?” (sound)
And to finish this section, just using this last one as a template for creating many different compliments will work on many guys:
- “May I ask you a question? I’m curious. Do you get many compliments on (fill in the blank)?”
Or any version of it like, “How often do you get compliments on (fill in the blank)?”
4. Flirty Body Language
Body language can send the signal that you find a guy attractive and it invites him to come talk to you without saying a word.
Here are some simple body language moves to turn him on:
- Make eye contact for a brief moment, then look away. Repeat this a few more times so he gets the hint that it was not an accident instead you were checking him out.
- Smile and lock eye contact for a brief moment as you walk by. (Especially effective for the men you regularly see, eg. at work, gym, same coffee shop, same grocery store, church, etc)
- Appear to get nervous when he looks at you. Tighten up your body, fix your hair, adjust your blouse.
- Face in his direction when he is around you and appear attentive to him. Don’t do it all the time, but more than you would someone you are not interested in.
- For the daring, you could adjust your bra. Straighten it out under each breast at the same time while you know that he is watching.
- Get within close proximity to him. Show that you are comfortable being within his personal space.
- Or put a few together: make eye contact, lock it, smile, say hello. Again, you want to show interest in the guy. We feel that when women lock eye contact and smile, it means that they find us attractive.
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5. Touch Him
…not there silly, but somewhere less private like on his forearm, tricep, shoulder or lower back.
Touching him obviously arouses him, but also shows that you are not afraid to get close and personal.
There’s no faster way to turn him on.
It does not make you out to be a slut either.
The places mentioned above to touch us demonstrate class and grace.
All guys imagine getting physically close to a woman they like.
When a woman appears on our radar, we begin to ask ourselves if she would feel comfortable getting close to us physically or would she shy away.
Most guys will tell you that they want a woman who does not fear getting close.
And when you touch him he can check that extremely important trait off on his list.
Studies have been conducted to connect touching to raised levels of attraction.
A simple and innocent way to touch him is to poke or lightly tickle him.
Here are a few articles how to turn him on with physical touch:
6. Animated Mannerisms and Gestures
We find it very appealing and feminine when a woman uses animation when she talks to us.
All it takes are simple hand gestures, facial expressions and body movements to express her feelings to us.
And this is especially true when she intentionally flirts with us.
It does not have to be anything extravagant or obnoxious.
Take some of the compliments and flirty remarks from above and then add some animation to them:
- “Do you get embarrassed when a girl compliments your smile?”– Combine this with a smile- almost like a laugh, head tilt, poke him in the shoulder, with the other hand on your hip all while facing him.
This teases him and shows your interest and confidence.
- “Ooh, love your cologne. You could break hearts wearing that.”– Pucker your lips while you utter “ooh”, face him and touch the side of his shoulder with the palm of your hand while you say this.
- “Do you get a lot of compliments about your laugh? It’s so cute.”– Say this after he laughs and give him a quick tickle to the ribs.
And here’s another:
- “Oh my, you look sooo cute with a tie on/ with that hat, with your shirt tucked in, etc.”– As you say this place each hand on the side of your head and widen your eyes and pucker your lips. Exaggerate your expression of attraction with these gestures and it will excite him more.
Perhaps you noticed one pattern here.
We like to be touched and to touch back.
Nothing sexual necessarily, just a gentle pat, poke or gentle grab to get our attention and to tell us that you’re not afraid to make physical contact.
7. Play with Props
Some techniques make flirting to turn him on easy and fun.
This is where using props laying around you in close proximity or ones that you bring along with you come in handy.
Certain places you visit on a daily basis lend for easy occasions to ask a stranger for help.
At the Grocery Store
Imagine you’re at the produce section of a grocery store and you strike up a conversation about recipes.
Now you send out the “damsel in distress call” mentioned in dating coach James Bauer’s His Secret Obsession and ask for his help.
Wandering through the produce section you spot a handsome guy checking out tomatoes, potatoes, or whichever vegetable.
Then you politely strike up a conversation and ask if he cooks and what his opinion on simple dishes with one of the vegetables is.
Compliment and playfully tease about his expertise on cooking and ingredients.
“Oh, wow, I didn’t know I’d meet a chef today. I guess today’s my lucky day,” and then smile and tilt your head.
Then if he seems into the conversation you can ask for help to find the best quality vegetables in the bin.
That’s when you start plopping “props” in his hands- in this case the vegetables, to have him help you find the best tomato.
This is the best time to tease and combine the other techniques listed here above to turn him on.
If you strategically have selected the right perfume, then lean in and get close enough for him to notice.
The key lesson here is to act playful because it’s fun, interactive, and mutually engaging.
It breaks the ice fast and easy and above all makes you attractive to him.
Somewhere in this quick 5-minute interaction, you would introduce yourself.
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8. Flirty-Curiosity-Inducing Texts to Turn Him On and Get Him to Chase
Not all texts are equal.
Text something boring and you come across annoying and clingy.
This could scare him off instead of turn him on.
But text the right way and you get him chasing.
And by chasing I mean you get him to comply with what you want- you influence him to respond.
How do you get him to respond?
Make him curious and chasing.
That’s the key to turn him on with texts.
Flirting with texts will bring you more success making men chase if you flirt in person first.
Get on his radar.
You want to tease each other and push and pull on each other to build sexual tension.
Then afterward the right curious-invoking flirty texts, or FB messages, will make him go crazy thinking about you and itching to see you.
For the best flirty texts check out my most popular post 10 Flirty Text Messages to Make Him Chase.
But here is the strategy.
At least one of a few.
It’s real simple.
Ask a question or statement that he cannot resist responding with a question.
And then answer with a flirty answer.
Train him to work in order to receive a reward.
Here are a few examples:
- “Guess what?”
- “The worst thing happened to me to today. Guess what happened?”
- “Know what I’m thinking about right now?”
- “I noticed something about you and I can’t stop smiling about it.”
Here’s another strategy.
…if you want to kick things up a notch.
Get his imagination running wild.
But take precautions.
These may overdo it.
He might just run over to your house right now.
- “Sorry I took so long to respond. I just got out of the shower and threw on a towel. I’m still dripping wet.”
- “I have a dilemma.” He asks what. “I got two new mini-skirts. I don’t know which one looks best on me.”
- “I messed up big time.” He asks how. “I think I shrank all my new bras in the dryer. Now I have to get new ones again.”
When he reads these texts, his blood will start to boil from excitement.
Check out my top flirty texts post and take the poll to vote which flirty text he’ll most likely respond to the most.
9. How Do You Think I Would Look…?
Here’s another playful way of interacting with us.
The guy would already have to show signs of liking you to pull this one-off.
Save this for the guy that you’ve already flirted back and forth with.
This technique is similar to the one mentioned above about the texts that get him to picture you in different outfits or kinds of clothing.
In some cases, it may be obvious that you are flirting with him, but sometimes that’s the best kind.
Set the stage before you ask the question to get his full attention and to build up the excitement.
Example: You Plan to Go to a Halloween Party
He may go too, he may not, it doesn’t matter.
Let’s pretend you’re texting this conversation.
“Hey, I need your help.”
He asks what you need.
“I’m going to this Halloween party and I have to choose a costume. I have a few ideas could you tell me which one you like most.”
Realize the point is to turn him on not actually get his opinion.
He says he’ll help you.
“Okay, I have three ideas, but promise to tell me which one you like the most?”
He promises.
“The first one is the Grim Reaper. How does that sound so far?”
He answers, it doesn’t matter how, because the third one is the one that will get him excited.
“The second one I might do is a unicorn (or a puppy)”. Again, it doesn’t matter because the next one is the one that will get his heart racing. “How does that sound?”
He will probably yawn but not want to offend you. He’ll say it sounds nice.
“Okay, the last one I’m not sure about. I’m a little shy about it, but promise not to laugh. How do you think I would look like a red she-devil. haha 😉 with pitchfork, pointy tail, horns, and fishnet leggings. haha. Yum, right? So, how does THAT sound?”
He’ll freak out and his heart will roll like thunder through his chest.
Then…
“I found a picture online. Hahaha, wanna see?”
Careful you might turn the poor guy on fire.
For more ideas just set the stage by bringing up new clothing items you’re considering getting, lipstick colors, heels or tight fit business suits.
Get him to imagine you in sexy clothes or cute feminine clothing items.
Tease him and giggle as you do it.
10. “You Remind Me of (Name of Hot Celebrity).”
Subtle but yet obvious flirty comments are quite sexy because of their cleverness.
By comparing your crush to an obviously well-known, handsome celebrity you make your affection known and raise up his confidence.
It’s a simple but effective flirty move to turn on men instantly.
Start with the question “Do you know who you remind me of?”
And then reveal the name.
Lock eye contact when you say it combined with a soft, flirty smile.
Bonus: “What Color Are Your Eyes? I Don’t Want to Stare.”
And another way to pull off the subtle, but the still obvious flirty comment is to comment on his eyes.
Want to make a man melt?
Compliment something about him physically.
You already know men value physical looks because most of men’s comments involve complimenting physical beauty.
Don’t be surprised if he responds with a flirty remark back after your flirty question and comment, “What Color Are Your Eyes? I Don’t Want to Stare.”
“You can start all you want.”
Use this technique in texts too.
“I noticed something about you and can’t stop thinking about it.”
He’ll ask what.
Then just use the past tense of the same comment “What color are your eyes? I didn’t want to stare.”
It’s a great way to compliment without actually saying he has nice eyes.
The subtlety makes it sexy.
There you have it.
Ten, plus one bonus way, to turn men on instantly that you can use with both men you just met and with ones you barely know.
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Perfume is indeed a great weapon to seduce a man. In fact, it’s one of the best technique a shy woman can use. Great post!