10 Shy Guy Flirting Techniques [Simple, Comfortable & Highly Effective]
“But I am shy. Are there any shy guy flirting techniques that can help me approach beautiful women out in public?”
Still think all girls only want outgoing men? Not true. Many girls find shy guys to be irresistible. And that’s the secret. The key of shy guy flirting make yourself irresistible to the women you like.
Your main objective is earn the right to talk or see her again.
For this to happen you must start a conversation with her.
Shy guy flirting involves simple (mostly body language) techniques to break the ice and create a very-easy-for-you transition for both of you to talk.
She should want to get closer to you and learn more about you. Make her feel happy around you, safe and build romantic, sensual tension until she no longer can resist.
She’ll then decide she must have you physically and emotionally.
Not every girl will respond the way you want. So set your expectations up for success.
Right now you’d feel ecstatic to find one girl who is interested in you with whom you begin to talk to regularly and go out with, right?
Therefore, it won’t matter that ALL girls display interest back to you because you don’t need ALL of them.
In the end one girl will stand out from the circle of girls you start to see and that’s who will become your girlfriend. (Or just someone to go out with and have fun).
These shy guy flirting techniques will work in almost any situation (at work, at the coffee shop, the grocery store, among your circle of friends when one of them brings their female friend, etc).
10 Simple, Highly Effective Shy Guy Flirting Techniques…that You Will Feel Comfortable Implementing TODAY!
1. Eye Contact Flirting
Eye contact flirting leads the pack of all nonverbal shy guy flirting techniques- even smiling. You wouldn’t smile while looking away, right?
Subtle, not intrusive eye contact displays confidence. But you must resist the urge to look away after making initial eye contact. You probably find this intimidating. Therefore, learn to naturally become comfortable making eye contact.
How can you acquire the natural confidence to make eye contact with women without it feeling weird?
Simply by practicing making eye contact with EVERYONE- including men (just for friendly purposes). But, of course, practicing this on women will build up your confidence faster.
You will be surprised at how many positive responses you receive which will break your fear and raise your confidence.
The Main Objective: Master holding eye contact with women for at least 3-4 seconds. Sounds scary right? Start by practicing to hold for 1 (solid) second until comfortable moving to 3-4.
In passing hold between 1 to 2 seconds.
Eye contact flirting will open the door to start conversations more easily. You will have her attention. And when she smiles back she will appear friendly and open to talk (you will sense it).
2. Eye Tag
In places and situations where you know you will have multiple opportunities to make eye contact with the girl this shy guy flirting technique will come in handy.
Whether in passing, up close or from a distance you will make eye contact for a second or two then look away. Attempt to make eye contact several times in whatever the situation you find yourself.
Then after at least a couple of times making eye contact increase the sexual tension and curiosity in her about you by quickly making eye contact again after you look away.
Your goal is to make her look back and smile. Congrats! She enjoys your attention.
3. Extended Hand Shake
Wait! Don’t get scared!
Yes, you will have to talk to her. But you won’t have to say much. “Hello” and introduce yourself and ask for her name.
Then with a firm handshake (not too strong), look her straight in the eyes…hold eye contact…then shoot that handsome happy eyes smile of yours.
She’ll shiver inside from your chivalry.
The confidence to do this illustrates to her that you have nothing to hide. This makes her feel safe and shows that you have manners which makes her feel comfortable.
Charming gentlemen melt women’s hearts.
“…But Can I Turn Her On the First Time I Meet Her?”
“Yes, it would be great to master starting conversations with beautiful women whenever I go to a coffee shop, but can I get her to like me right away?”, you think to yourself.
“Can I also get her number so I can ask her out?”
“And how can I do it without feeling like a creep?”
This short video presentation I recommend will show you how to trigger deep sexual chemistry in her IMMEDIATELY…
This video reveals one of the simplest, effective shy guy flirting approaches to INSTANTLY seduce her, ask for and receive her phone number (or friending her on FB) and even ask her out…WITHIN 2 MINUTES of meeting her.
Talking is great, but as you know, will mean nothing if she doesn’t find you irresistible.
This video will uncover secrets how to master to get her to desire you in the first conversation.
The great news…this works in any situation…even in passing while walking by where you have merely seconds to act!
[Click to watch this short video] to learn how to apply these shy guy flirting techniques to instantly attract women at coffee shops (and any random situation), get their phone number and take them out by one of the best dating coaches for men I know Matt Artisan.
I like his casual and relaxed approach.
4. Happy Eyes Smile
Women prefer the company of men who make them feel happy. A frown and makes you look creepy and them feel awkward. A smile, on the other hand, is contagious, entices them to smile back and in turn you look attractive.
Not all smiles are the same, however.
The cutest and most attractive smiles are authentic- the ones that display true happiness. Those happen when you create points with your eyes and mouth.
Just enough to show that you find them attractive to the point you cannot resist smiling. Smiling too big, however, can look less manly and weird.
5. Light Touch
Touching sexual body parts will get you fired or slapped- well, for most women.
Besides you wouldn’t do that any way, right?
For a shy guy touching innocent, less offensive areas of the body will arouse her fast. Any respectable place that is not her butt, boobs, hips, legs or face will work.
Think shoulders, fore arms, small of back, wrist, behind her neck, hands will turn her on.
Touch her often in your interactions while talking to her, but after you have successfully flirted with her using the other techniques (smile, extended handshake, eye flirting).
Those are easy for you to do since they are not quite as scary and allow you to gradually intensify her desire to want you.
6. Tilt Head
This is a bonus move to add onto smiling and holding eye contact. It shows extra interest in her and makes her feel attractive.
Tilting your head towards her, especially while she’s talking to you shows you have extra interest in her and what she says.
Of course, that makes her feel special because you find her interesting.
Once you begin a conversation with her then smile periodically and tilt your head for bonus points.
According to an article I read on LiveScience.com, Australian researchers discovered that women find men attractive who tilt their heads backwards while talking with them.
7. Charming Gestures and Manners
Chivalry will never die.
No woman can resist a true gentleman.
That’s why shy guy flirting works.
Don’t women want the knight in shining armor after all?
The men who conduct and display charming gestures and manners will stand out from the crowd of today’s modern man.
Acquire this mentality and apply it to everyday life and practice it with EVERYONE.
When you display finesse and charm with one woman the others will notice too. The guys will start to get jealous too because they know it makes women’s hearts melt.
Here’s a short list:
- Hold the door open for a woman
- The list below represent a few examples of chivalry that practically will make any woman sweat under the collar and their heart beat faster.
- These actions will work for both complete strangers and ladies you are acquainted with:
- Open the door or hold it open for her.
- Lowers items from the top shelf.
- Invites her to pass in front through a door or narrow passage way.
- Offers to lift heavy items for her.
- Sacrifices his umbrella to keep her dry while he holds it over her head.
- Gives up his coat to keep her dry or warm.
8. Laughing
When you laugh you look attractive.
You appear fun and relaxed.
The admirer associates you with feeling fun and relaxed too. After all, when you laugh, you naturally smile, which we discussed at beginning of this post.
Of course, if you make the girl do the laughing, she will find you irresistible too, for the same reasons.
A simple way to make a girl laugh is to invent some silly, but cute situation that is obviously ridiculous that loosens tension.
(make up an example)
Inherently what makes humor funny is the release of tension (find online reference).
9. Acts of Kindness
In my opinion, charm is the number one way to earn a girl’s affection.
It works on all personality types both outgoing and introverted.
The age-old “saving a damsel in distress” will live for an eternity.
But you must do it in a way where you show that you do not expect anything in return. That you come across selfless.
And that’s what makes you irresistible.
I hit it off with the girl of my dreams just going out of my way to make sure she did not get sunburned at work by offering her my hat, sunscreen and periodic water breaks.
Who knew that she couldn’t stop thinking about me the whole day after that?
Later she told me it was at that moment she decided she wanted to have sex with me.
No joke.
And this girl is MUCH, MUCH younger than me.
Above all women value safety and how comfortable you make them feel. If you seek a relationship then these values last.
10. Winking
I heard that gulp!
You just swallowed your tongue out of fear.
If the handshake and introduction scared you this one probably knocked you out.
But don’t fret.
This shy guy flirting will come natural when you practice with EVERYBODY, just like what I suggested you do with smiling and holding eye contact.
Of course, when practicing with men, you must do it only as a friend “hey, brah, what up” manner. Nod your head downward right after.
Winking (followed by s subtle smile) is reserved for the most secure people who are happy in their own skin.
And thus becomes irresistible to any passing female.
Add a head tilt and even the hottest most sought after girls’ hearts will flutter.
[Bonus]
Charming Compliments
No need to pour it on.
Just keep it simple.
Simple is the essence of shy guy flirting.
Less is more.
Learn to offer (not shower- which is creepy) a girl cute, innocent compliments that no one else does, or in a way that no one else does.
This will separate you from the rest of the guys flirting and hitting on her. You will stand out.
The trick is to find out something specific that a girl likes and is proud about herself.
You won’t go wrong about her personality, her career, interests, passions, taste in clothing, jewelry, finger nail designs, eye lashes or color/shape of her eyes.
Another guaranteed hit compliment with a girl (after you get to know her a bit and you speak on a regular basis) is to compliment how she makes you feel.
The girl I mentioned above that I offered an act of kindness to at work loved when I told her that she “brings out the best in me”.
Try out any of these examples and create your own:
- “I admire how caring you are towards the people around you.”
- “Where did you learn to how to be so sweet? It’s rare to see.”
- “You couldn’t have chosen a prettier color to suit you. That blouse looks very nice on you.”
- “I think of all the women I know you have the best taste in (shoes, shirts, etc).”
- “I don’t know what it is about you, but whenever I feel a little down you make me smile and lift my spirits. Thank you.”
- “Whenever I talk with you, you encourage me to strive for more. You have a way of making me smile.”
- “You have the cutest smile. Whenever you smile your eyes shine like little diamonds.”
Yes, I realize it does take courage to give a girl complements, but the safe thing about these is that they are cute and innocent.
She will not reject you.
And coming from a shy guy makes it all the much cuter in her eyes because she knows how much courage you have to muster up to say them.
5 Ways You Know You Mastered these Simple Shy Guy Flirting Techniques
- The girls smile back and make extended eye contact with you.
- You easily start conversations with a majority of them.
- She is excited to talk and see you every time.
- She asks personal questions that are not related to work to get to know you better.
- When they ask you to contact them or to go out again.
Bonus
You don’t give a “f” what her response is- you just keep smiling, locking eye contact and winking to any girl without a fear in the world.
Bottom Line: Effective shy guy flirting happens when you enjoy it and it becomes natural.
How to Get a Girl’s Phone Number (on the street)
What if you saw a girl on the street (or anywhere in public)…
…and you knew you only had seconds to act?
What would you do?
“Can I also get her number so I can ask her out?”
“And how can I do it without feeling like a creep?”
You might ask yourself these questions.
And so would many guys.
This short video presentation I recommend will show you turn her on RIGHT AWAY…
The shy guy flirting video will reveal one of the simplest approaches to INSTANTLY seduce her, ask for and get her phone number (or friending her on FB) and even ask her out…WITHIN 2 MINUTES of meeting her EVEN ON THE STREET
Talking is great, but as you know, will mean nothing if she doesn’t find you irresistible.
This video will uncover secrets how to master to get her to desire you in the first conversation.
The great news…this works in any situation…even in passing while walking by in public anywhere when you only have merely seconds to act!
[Click to watch this short video] to learn how to apply simple shy guy flirting techniques to instantly attract women at coffee shops (and any random situation), get their phone number and take them out by one of the best dating coaches for men I know Matt Artisan.
