Man Magnet Tips: How Can You Create Emotional Attraction with Him?
If you want to create a bond with a man on a deeper level then learn the keys to create emotional attraction with that guy you like.
That’s probably not what you expected to hear and you might not even believe it.
After all society depicts us men as horn-balls.
According to many women all we want is sex, a big pair of boobs and pear-shaped hips and booty.
(Well, yes, of course, we like that!)
However…
Physical beauty can get our attention, but it won’t keep our attention if the woman in our life just doesn’t get us.
She must learn how to connect with us emotionally.
If she doesn’t, then she just annoys us.
And why would we want to live with a woman who annoys us?
We wouldn’t.
Not even with the hottest woman in the neighborhood.
A hot woman who does not know how to create emotional attraction with a man becomes a bore and a nuisance, or worse, all men’s biggest nightmare…
…a gold digger.
We Desire BOTH Kinds of Attraction
As men we desire both kinds of attraction, to her outside appearance and how we feel when we’re around a woman.
And the women who get the concepts of how to build up emotional attraction with us get us to chase them.
As long as we find her pretty enough, we will chase her to the end of the earth.
Consequently, women who end up in happy and healthy relationships understand the fundamentals of understanding men’s needs.
And one of the key fundamentals to understand men is knowing what the qualities he is most proud of about himself.
Tap into that deep mine of gold knowledge and you will be a relationship wealthy woman.
What are those qualities you ask? Let’s take a look.
Characteristics and Qualities We Admire about Ourselves… that Help You Create a Deep Emotional Attraction with Us
Your Goal: find what we like about ourselves, want you to notice, then bring them up in conversation or point them out in any way you can. I’m assuming you want to find your soulmate.
In this post you will find more than enough tips to get the ball rolling to connect with him on a deep level. You can start them today, in fact.
HOWEVER, if you like some additional advanced training how to create emotional attraction with men then I recommend you read my review of “His Secret Obsession” by dating coach for women James Bauer, my personal favorite eBook to help women understand men and become irresistible or just watch his short video presentation to explain it himself.
Heroic
Risk-takers
Providers
Talented (at particular skills or achievements)
Problem-solvers
Protective
Adventurous
Good Conversationalist
Inventive
Ambitious
Forward-thinkers
Hard-working
Leaders
Expertise (on their favorite topics)
Understands Women’s Needs
Able to Turn a Woman On
Powerful (in character)
Strong
Feel Needed
Accomplishments
Achievements and Awards
Inspirational
Cheerful
Thoughtful
Humorous
Accolades
Can Face a Challenge
Not Afraid of Confrontation
Offers a Valuable Opinion
Decisive
How Can You Take Advantage of this List to Create a Deep Emotional Attraction with that Guy You Like?
Look out for circumstances or situations to compliment, allow him to prove himself or point out to him that you notice something special.
In some cases, situations will present themselves, but will you be ready?
Other times you can you place yourself in situations that allow you to connect with him.
And that’s the point of the following exercises.
I’ll reference the above list.
Complimenting Him
What do you like about him that’s unique to him?
We take pride in our areas of expertise, accomplishments or talents. In my case, I learned another language fluently. It takes dedication to not only learn a few phrases in another language, but to actually speak, read, write and comprehend it is at a whole other level. A girl I absolutely adored pointed out how impressed she was by that skill. She even repeatedly asked me to speak to her (AKA tell her naughty and romantic things 😊 ) She loved how it sounded.
- Laugh at his jokes, especially when you like them. He’ll start to notice when you routinely do.
- Tell him that he makes you laugh.
- When he helps carry something for you express your amazement of how he was able to lift it with ease. (The same girl above who complimented me on my language skills did this to me too.)
- Mention something specific and unique about his laugh or smile. “I love the way your mouth curls when you smile. It’s cute.” (This is a very ladylike way to compliment and gets our blood boiling).
- “Every time we talk you inspire me.” Major compliment, but simple. This is a very unique way to tell him you like him. This is a secret weapon compliment.
- “That’s a solid point. You’re very thoughtful.”
- “You make me feel so special. How do you understand me so well?” (We like to feel like we understand women’s needs).
How do you think you could bring about the circumstances to build emotional attraction and connection? Can you find opportunities to compliment him when he’s around when they don’t present themselves naturally? What if he hasn’t told you a joke in a while? What if you don’t really need help moving something (after all you’re a strong girl yourself)? What if you don’t know about his accolades, achievements or accomplishments?
Spotlight His Talents, Achievements or His Favorite Experiences
What does he do well, excel in? What has he accomplished that amazes you?
No matter how big or small, everyone has a talent and skill they are proud of. Find out what it is or find one that you like. Get creative.
- Express your astonishment at how he achieved an award or any accomplishment.
- Ask him how he was able to land that big client he got last week.
- Give him the chances to express what it felt like to go to a big sporting event (Nascar race, playoff game, golf or tennis match).
- “How does it make you feel when you go to (his favorite spot- a specific beach, mountain, lake, fancy restaurant, theme park)?”
- “I ‘m fascinated that you (a talent, achievement- winning first prize in something, play the guitar, doing magic tricks, singing in the church choir, fixing motorcycles, dog training, fixing computers). What inspired you to get involved in that?”
How would you discover these talents to develop emotional attraction to you if he hasn’t told you about them?
Bring Out the Best in Him
I saved the best for last.
The best way to create emotional attraction with a man is to let him be himself around you.
Sounds vague, right?
Allow me to clarify.
Let him show off, act like your hero, share his inspiration or motivation with you.
Many women fear doing this because they fear losing control and giving the driver’s seat to the man. No one wants to be taken advantage of, but that’s why you must look at the whole picture. Everything he says and does gives you a glimpse into his heart and tells you who he is and who he will be later once you start to date him.
True love stems from vulnerability.
Give without fear of receiving and Mr. Right will present himself to you by giving back because he likes you and doesn’t want to lose you.
When we really like a woman to the point we want her to be our girlfriend we will do ANYTHING to keep her.
We see you as treasure or an exotic, mysterious creature.
You will become our unicorn, pot of gold at the end of a rainbow.
The biggest secret I can offer you about men is that a man chooses his mate based on which girl he can feel comfortable being the best version of himself. If he can be his favorite version of himself without holding back or feeling ashamed of parts of himself he will want her by his side as much as possible.
You gotta meet him halfway. He will reciprocate and do some of the same things on this list for you if he likes you.
What if he doesn’t?
Then he’s the wrong man for you.
This list here is key.
-Hero
Find ways to let him be your hero (carry things for you- EVEN WHEN YOU CAN DO IT YOURSELF, solve ANY kind of problem big or small, give you a hug when you feel sad to console you, offer helpful advice, ask for his expertise on one of his talents or skills). ALL US MEN feel strong emotional attraction towards the women who let us act “rescue” you them.
Yes, even picking up that pencil you dropped makes us feel like your hero. We want to do favors for you.
-Showing Off His Talents
Pretty straightforward. Ask him to show off what he does well, talk about it or both. This would be a great opportunity where you the woman can organically ask the guy out on a date.
He loves motorcycles, horses, loves comedy, dances salsa, has a boat or sports car, golfs, paints. Ask him to show you these things. “That’s so exciting! I’d love to see (or do that with you). So, when are you going to invite me to (take me in your boat, show me your motorcycle, take me to a comedy club, give me golf swing lessons, etc.) If you already feel a vibe between him he will absolutely set a date.
-Teach You
Even if not on a date, you can ask a man to teach you lessons from one of his talents or skills.
- Ask him how to say something in the language he speaks or second language he learned.
- Have him show you how to do a magic trick, juggle, play a card game.
- Ask him to tell you step-by-step how to fix something.
- All these things can even be done during a lunch break at work.
-Ask for Tips or His Opinion
This is similar to teaching you something, but not quite the same. You are just looking for brainstorming ideas here. Make sure you tell him that you value his opinion because he always has good ideas. Make it like you came to him specifically because you knew he could help. Consider even saying something cute after he helps you like, “Great ideas. I knew I could depend on you. What would I do without you?”
- What places should you visit when you go somewhere he has been, but you haven’t?
- Ask him which restaurants he’s been to in town to find a new place to eat?
- “Who’s the best mechanic to take my car to?”
- “What’s the best thing to read first to start a blog?” (A great question to ask me … if you were flirting with me. 😊 )
Wow, I just poured out all my secrets to you!
Now I’m tired.
What are you going to do with these golden nuggets? Will you put them into practice? Please share your ideas in the comment field at the bottom of this post? Or ask me for more of my thoughts. I will respond within 24-48 hours.
Summary
We choose girlfriends who like us for what we like about ourselves. If we feel good about ourselves when she’s around us and we enjoy her characteristics and she enjoys ours then this displays chemistry. And chemistry is one half of what makes healthy relationships, compatibility is the other half. That’s for another post or email.
I hope these tips get your creative juices flowing.
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