Only ONE question matters.
Do you want to know the truth?
My name is Orlando and I run the blog InfidelityFirstAidKit.com.
If you've experienced an affair first-hand, then like me, you don't want to live the life of a lie, do you?
So, if you prefer to keep pretending like nothing is wrong, then you might want to stop reading.
However...
If you want the truth and want to end the pain of not knowing, then please keep reading.
Because you're minutes away from FINALLY finding the truth.
Here's my story...
It's my sister's house.
The whole family's there...
My mother, father, aunt, uncle, grandmother, grandfather, sister, brother-in-law and nieces.
I'm visiting home from Florida. (I grew up in Ohio).
My now ex-wife, is sitting there asleep on the couch with my youngest niece.
They're hugging each other.
So, cute.
Both sound asleep in each other's arms.
(My nieces loved her. She played with them for hours and they'd follow her around the house.)
I decide that I want to take a picture.
But my phone is garbage.
It would delay 5 seconds before it snapped a photo.
So, I think to myself, "You know what? I'll use her iPhone."
Because it takes pictures faster...
I don't know what you've gone through.
But life-changing moments happen far and inbetween.
You can count on one hand those episodes that divert the course of your life.
What I'm about to tell you, is one of those moments.
So, I pick up her phone.
**BAM**
It awakens.
And the LIFE-CHANGING CONVERSATION explodes off the 4-inch screen and cuts right through my heart.
It's the conversation that you NEVER hope to see.
Him: "Miss you! Can't wait to see you! 😘"
Her: "Miss you too! Can't wait to see you too! 💋"
Him: "Do you need a place to stay? You can stay with me."
Her: "I have a place this time. Maybe next time."
With some phone number from NYC I don't recognize.
I later find out that her trips to see "friends" in NYC turn out to be trips to see her boyfriend.
Then the spew of lame excuses shoot of out her mouth.
So, I do what any person does who does not want to face reality.
I STAY WITH HER.
But the worst is yet to come...
You know that feeling you have right now, that something does not seem right in your relationship?
That's the feeling I get two months later.
What I later find out about my wife is that when she is told "no" she then wants it more.
No empathy, no sorrow.
No stopping to think, "Hey, maybe this isn't a good idea."
So, she gets back from visiting her family for a month.
Nothing strange there.
She comes from another country, so she often would go home for at least a few weeks.
But she seems emotionally distant.
(Can you relate?)
And then she mentions that she wants to go on a trip AGAIN this month.
This time back to NYC.
(Reminder: she had just gone on a month-long trip).
That's when I get a hunch.
So, I check our phone records on our shared cell phone plan.
And there it is!!!
The same phone number from NYC on the date she left for "home".
The records show texts and phone calls to the same number over a couple-day span.
Then nothing for about a month.
And then it appears again for a few days leading to the day she flies back here.
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==>Strange-Looking Phone Numbers
Calling a strange phone number off of your phone records is not always the best choice.
In my case, I called from her phone so I knew that he would answer.
But is there another way to get hard evidence?
Yes.
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(I ran one on myself and couldn't believe all the information that's out there including all the phone numbers ever associated with me and the people in my previous shared phone plans, social media accounts, and online photos.)
From there you could run another background check on that person (or just do some internet snooping of your own, including their social media accounts).
==>Secret Secondary Phones
Eventually, I discovered later that she had gotten her own separate phone number.
Some cheaters will also get prepaid phones.
Either way, you can run a background check with Truthfinder.com to uncover secret secondary phone numbers that belong to your potential cheating partner.
Plus, possible phones that your partner purchases for their lover.
I show her the phone records.
She completely closes up.
No explanation.
Nothing.
(Sound familiar? Cheaters typically do not confess).
She doesn't talk for about 30 minutes.
So, I dial the number.
"He" answers.
And I tell him who I am.
He says that he will not contact her again.
The conversation ends.
Then I do what anyone sensible does.
I stay with her.
*Sarcasm of course*
(Yes, the same recurring story that my email subscribers to InfidelityFirstAidKit.com tell me happens. They go back to their serial cheating spouse).
Fast forward to April 2015
(Yes, I actually put up with her cheating for a year and a half later.
And over the course of that time she was cold and distant. So, it was only a question of time before she cheated again).
In February of that year, two months prior, she claimed to go on another long trip back home.
That's not where she went.
Where did she go?
You guessed it.
NYC!
She had moved in with, get this, another guy, different from the one in 2013.
How did they meet?
I don't know. I'm assuming online.
So, back to April.
A mutual acquaintance of ours, with whom we had both worked, knew of her affair.
She did not like my wife because of it.
And out of the blue she sends me a text.
Her: "I didn't know if I should send you this or not but, I found your wife with another guy on Instagram. It looks like they live together."
I ask her to send me the pics.
She does.
And that's when I FINALLY came to the realization that our relationship is over.
(Why did it take me so long?)
Then I check both of their profiles.
It shows proof that for months she'd spent time with him.
Trips back home were not back home.
And visits to friends were not to friends.
They were to see this guy.
And finally she just moved out and in with him.
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==>Secret Social Media Profiles
It's safe and easy for your partner to cheat with a secret social media profile. With a fake name they can set it up then post and message each other with little fear.
Unless, of course, you run a background check with Truthfinder.com.
You'd be surprised at all the photos of your partner and their lover together that they can find from social media accounts that you didn't know existed.
If you think you can handle the truth then find out if your emotionally distant partner is hiding a secret social media account.
==>Secret Emails
It's even easier for your partner to set up email accounts that you don't know about.
They can sign in on their phone and message each other.
And when they finish they can sign right out.
They can also set up notifications to not pop up on their phone.
Then that way you'd never see an accidental message appear on your partner's phone while they show you a funny meme.
Except, you've got the secret weapon.
Use Truthfinder.com to find secret emails that belong to your partner.
They could even use this email to set up dating app profiles to find a side piece.
Possibly they can find dating app photos too.
Don't feel bad if you've pretended that nothing strange is going on.
A lot of us betrayed spouses don't want to deal with the shock of finding hard evidence.
We all have a lot of other problems to deal with.
A cheating partner is not one we want to face (or even know how to face it).
But if you feel ready for the truth then discover all the pieces of hard evidence that Truthfinder.com can dig up.
[Click here] to run a background check on your partner with Truthfinder==>
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