More often than not us men will not approach shy women, but it’s not because we don’t want to.
It’s for reasons that make us think to twice about talking to you.
Identify and fix those reasons and it will turn around your love life practically overnight like it did for my friend and dating coach for shy women who I will bring up in a bit.
Let’s talk about you for a moment instead.
I get it you’re reserved, like to spend a lot of time by yourself maybe reading books, writing or journaling BUT you are ready for love.
You’re tired of seeing the drop-dead, OUTGOING, gorgeous, voluptuous babes scooping up all the good men, right?
Sick of your friends finding boyfriends, getting married and having kids, I’d bet.
What will it take for you to start attracting men to you more regularly?
…and what if you could reel them in like fish? Okay, maybe that’s too many.
STOP!
Okay, before we go any further let’s end this ridiculousness.
Are you ready for a shocker?
Us men find shy women H-O-T!
Actually, to your surprise we find you irresistible and wonderfully adorable.
And it’s because of your quiet-like behaviors. They make us feel more comfortable.
Yes, that’s right. We find you beautiful because of your shyness.
We find you more lady-like, mysterious with many secrets that we are dying to unlock.
PLUS… you are less likely to be a drama queen, needy diva like outgoing girls.
And I would say that most men perceive introverted women to be more giving and caring- (a HUGE win for us).
AKA- girlfriend material!
So You Are Saying that Men Find Shy Women Attractive?
Yep!
Yes, I am.
Very much so!
In fact, shy women have as many options with men (if not MORE) than some of those women you deem popular and good with men.
ALL men DO check out the outgoing girl who invests a ton of time grooming and paying attention to all the latest fashion trends, BUT it doesn’t mean we want to date them.
Why not?
HIGH maintenance.
Many of us think that it takes too much effort to keep her happy and she’s always hit on by sleezy guys. No guy wants his girl constantly hit on.
And also many popular women seem emotionally detached and superficial to down-to-earth quality men who place a high value on a deep-connected relationship.
That may not actually be true of these women, but that’s what down-to-earth guys perceive.
Quality men who want to commit to a relationship chase compatible women who bring out the best version of themselves.
A high maintenance, needy woman with many dating options at her fingertips will have the opposite effect on us.
We want a girlfriend who we can feel comfortable acting and feeling like our natural selves.
And isn’t that what you want?
Yes, of course it is.
I can hear all the “buts” rolling around in your head right now.
“BUT…Why Don’t More Men Approach Me and Want to Talk to Me?”
They DO want to talk with you.
BUT… you don’t look like you want to talk with us.
Why would we want to talk with someone who looks unapproachable?
You scare us away with your demeanor and body language.
There are a few other confusing signals that shy women such as yourself might be sending out to us that we will cover in this post that I don’t think you realize you are doing.
But here’s some good news…
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- How to find the Best Places to meet quality men.
- What to do that invites a man to want to approach you.
- Learn how to become a magnet of respectful, interesting and handsome men wherever you go.
- Make it easy for him to ask you out.
- And even the exact phrases and scripts for shy women to follow of what to say when he does talk to you.
Now before we look at how to turn things around to start meeting men on a regular basis and getting dates with men you will actually like let’s start with what why men do not approach shy women.
[TAKE POLL]: Share Your Opinion (Choose 2)
10 Reasons Men Don’t Approach Shy Women
We would love to talk with you.
You’re that girl that we admire at Starbucks as we grasp our hot cup of coffee hoping to get a sign that we won’t get a swift kick of rejection if we take that chance to approach you.
But everything about the way you present yourself screams, “Stay away! I’m too busy and don’t feel like talking now!”
Do you know what our number one fear is as men when approaching women?
Rejection.
Everything on this list below leads us to believe that you will reject us.
I highly recommend that you look out for the following behaviors and learn to adjust them if you want us to start coming up to you to talk or flirt with you more often.
1. Closed and Unapproachable Body Language
When you point your body away from people and look down it does not come across as inviting. It yells, “I want to be by myself right now.”
2. No Eye Contact
When you make eye contact with us it acknowledges that you know we are there. This increases our confidence to approach you because it doesn’t feel comfortable for us to grab your attention away from what you were doing it. We don’t want to interrupt.
3. Uninterested Signals
You accidentally send out signals that you are not interested in the guys who want to approach you. Nothing about your body language induces confidence in men to come up to you, let alone flirt with you.
[Read one of my more popular posts about simple, flirty body language that grabs men attention.]
4. Unresponsive to Our Advances
When we ignore your signs that tell us you don’t want to talk and do it anyway, you don’t hold any kind of meaningful conversation. You don’t know how to respond to our ice-breaking joke, comments or flirtatious compliment. We interpret that as a lack of interest in us.
5. The Invisible Wall Around You
It feels like you have erected an invisible barrier around you and want to be by yourself. Again, we fear interrupting you.
6. Unhappy Face
You don’t look happy sometimes when we are around, not necessarily sad, just that you don’t have a sense of joy in your surroundings. But, wow, when you do and you glow with radiance grinning from ear-to-ear you blow us away with your beauty. It’s as if a ray of sunlight spotlights you from the heavens.
7. Staring at Your Phone
Either you stare at your phone or pay an exorbitant amount of attention to the whatever it is you have in your hands. You don’t look around at others.
8. Dead-end Dialog
During those times you feel in the mood to talk you don’t ask us questions that show you have an interest in getting to know us. Nor do you pay us any compliments. This typically gets interpreted as you don’t like us.
9. On a Mission. Too Busy, No Time to Talk
You put your head down and jet off to your next destination. How do you even see where you walk? There’s no indication that you want to stop and politely interact with the people around you.
10. You Don’t Smile Enough
I know others have told you it. And I know you don’t like hearing it. No, it’s not a very endearing thing for someone to say, but nothing says “I enjoy your company”more than a genuinely happy smile accompanied with direct eye contact.
Summary: Stop Giving Men a Reason to Walk Away
So, you’re probably wondering after reading this list, “Wait, I thought you said men like shy women. If I do many of the things on this list then why would a guy like me?”
It’s not that he doesn’t like you rather he hopes that you give him some friendly sign to advance or an invitation to come back again.
We are hoping that as you get to know us that you will bring down your barriers little-by-little and warm up to us.
But again, we fear rejection.
When we like a girl enough we will fight back that fear, but only when the circumstances are right.
But what if that situation never presents itself?
“Shouldn’t a Guy Just Grow Some Balls and Talk to Me Anyway?”
Just in case that stupid thought creeps in your head that goes something like, “Well, if he had any balls he would come talk to me anyway.”
Some guys do and they have approached you, but how many have shied away because of the things on the list above over the last few years? Over your lifetime?
Hundreds. Possibly thousands actually.
Yes, thousands!
We look for the females who we find attractive first and then next the ones who seem approachable.
If you do not look approachable then we will find someone else who does.
Why would I come talk to you at Starbucks or at the work cafeteria while you swiped through your phone for 30 minutes with your head drooped down the entire time?
It’s time to change these behaviors.
Why not start today?
You will have that chance in a moment.
The Hospitable Front Desk Host Analogy
Just to illustrate my point.
Think about the last time you stayed at a hotel and had a question you needed answered (or needed to ask a store clerk a question).
If you had a choice of people to go up to and ask your inquiry which you would choose?
a) the grumpy-looking man/woman
b) the bored-looking man/woman
c) the one staring around the room
d) the man/woman who looks right at you and greets you with a warm smile
Obviously, you’d go with “d”.
Shy women improve their chances to be approached by respectful men by looking warm and inviting.
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Who Would Benefit from this Guide Most?
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I want you to trust me to give you the best customized advice for your particular needs and situation. There are plenty of other guides written by dating coaches out there. Plus I offer valuable advice in the posts in my blog as well as in my own dating guides.
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It’s very meaningful and true. Thank you a million it’s exactly what i needed. Good luck!