Affair D-Day 1: My Infidelity Story
Don’t let the affair take your happiness.
Stare.
Nothing but a stare.
What else could I do, but stare? There it was.
It’s what every married man dreads. It stared back at me. Challenged me.
The room fogged. My mom blurred. My sister blurred. Every one blurred in the packed room. Aunts, uncles, grandparents. Laughter dimmed. Vanished in my mind.
Heart beat. I heard my heart beat. Nothing else.
I’ll never forget that moment.
What did I do to deserve this?
Would I ever recover? Would all my dreams disintegrate?
The glow from her phone gravitated my face toward its two-inch screen like a tractor beam. It grabbed both ears and yanked down to the coffee table.
The texts…
Him: “Honey, can’t wait to see you in NY tomorrow.”
Her: “Miss you too. xoxo”
Most cheaters catch themselves. Months, years pass. No detection. She (or he) plays off your loyalty. Plays off you, your belief that they, the cheating spouse, would join hands and walk down life’s sandy beach for eternity together.
That’s how they win. Until…
***BAM!!**
Sexting.
They slack. Their comfort of avoiding your suspicion betrays them. They slip up because they stop paying attention to details.
Accidents.
Accidents is how loyal spouses like you find out about your cheating spouse’s affair.
My Infidelity Story. What is Yours?
My wife’s affair rocked me to the core. And what happened since then inspired me to help others. People like you. Infidelity and affair stories litter the internet. Hundreds. Thousands.
What she did. Or what he did happened and you will not change that.
Knowing how they did it. When they did it. Where they did it. How often they did it does not really matter, does it?
It will not make the pain go away.
But you need to talk it out. I did.
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My Infidelity Story- the Other Side
I once stood on the other side of the fence. I cheated on my first wife a long time before. And yes. I tried to justify my reasons. But cheating never solves anything. It only causes pain for everyone involved.
Even in my case where I should have boldly confronted her, or sought professional help.
We could have discussed what I felt wasn’t working in the relationship and either solved it or moved onto our separate ways.
Instead I thought that through the passing of time we would somehow work out our differences, but the tensions continued to build and that’s when I met someone who seemed to “get me”.
Terrible decision.
Many affairs can be avoided by knowing the boundaries ahead of time and not crossing them.
We can erroneously believe that “we can just be friends” with someone from the opposite sex while we experience hardship in our relationships.
That is just playing with fire.
If you see smoke in your relationship then seek professional help sooner than later or you risk the house burning down.
That’s the road I should have taken and the road all the relationships from my viewers who email me with their stories should have taken.
Does that mean you end up staying together?
In some cases yes, and in others no.
But regardless an affair could have been avoided and the marriage could have ended a little more peacefully.
I wish I would have sought professional help earlier rather than be ashamed of asking for it.
But if you’ve come to my site and read this far then you either suspect that your spouse is cheating or you have already caught them.
In the case that you’ve caught them, then you still can seek help or decide if you are better off moving on alone.
And if you suspect foul play then you deserve to know the truth (provided you can handle it).
The First Way I Can Help You
Either way I can help advise you how to catch a cheater and to determine if your spouse has a cheating problem.
Or if they truly are remorseful and wish to repair the damage, I can direct you (or them) to professional counselor advice that can help earn back your trust in the relationship.
Repairing the Marriage After the Affair or Moving On Alone
These really are your only two choices you’ve got.
My infidelity story begins and ends differently than yours perhaps, but common ground exists in all affairs. How we handle our own personal infidelity story is the key.
InfidelityFirstAidKit.com is not about any one solution. It’s about healing. Healing in the way that makes sense for you and your situation.
If you recently discovered his (or her) affair I recommend you read my post about the first step to affair recovery.
Don’t Make Any Hasty Decisions Yet
Repairing the marriage after the affair may not be the answer. Not the answer if you married a serial cheater.
It could be the answer, however, if he (or she) truly just acted out of character.
Whether you decide to repair your marriage after the affair or move on alone you need some time to sort through all your thoughts and feelings.
I promise to attempt to write something that either helps you or inspires you.
Preferably both.
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My Infidelity Story D-Days 2 and 3
Oh, yes. Then there was the second and third D-day- sequels to the discovery of my second wife’s affair.
I will write about them either in my new ebooks or in the my email updates.
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Thank you for listening to my infidelity story and letting me help you survive the affair.