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ABCs of Irresistible Romantic Text Messages to Send Men

The Components, Objectives and Strategies to Emotionally Connect with Men with Just Your Iphone

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Can you get a man to feel, think and do what you want with romantic text messages?

Time to dial up your flirty and romantic text messages to take charge of your love life.

 

It’s also time to take advantage of the power of simple text messages that can improve your communication in long-term relationships.

 

Or to gauge where you stand with a guy in the early relationship stages.

 

Because a high-value woman like you wants to influence her love life- in a savvy way.

 

Boyfriend, husband or new guy.

 

It won’t matter what relationship stage you find yourself.


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You know that there’s something secretive, powerful about romantic text messages.

 

You’ve seen it firsthand.

 

“I’m all alone. Guess what I’m doing?”

 

Then he responds quickly.

 

…or…

“Honey, do you know what I appreciate most about you?” How much of a bad ass you are.  You don’t quit until you get what you want.”  

 

Again, with little hesitation, your man comes running to you through the phone.

 

…or…

“So, were you stalking me at the bar?”

 

To which the new guy you met rushes to his own defense.

“No, no, of course not.”

 

And then you shoot the romantic arrow to his heart that hooks him with this text:

“Oh, I was hoping your were, you devil.”

 

You can almost hear the sound he makes through the phone.

“GULP!”

You got him.

“Well, if you really want me to,” he then shoots back.

 

That text conversation actually happened to me with a woman.

She knew what makes men tick.

And she text flirted her way right to my heart.

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I know one thing that you do know for sure.

That text messages can put the power to impact your relationships right at your fingertips at any given moment, anywhere you are.

No matter if you are sitting right next to him in the same room, across the city miles away or in another continent.

Technology has changed the game of love and relationships.

But…  it only happens once in a while for you because you rely on lucky text messages to get a response from him.

If you got the kind of responses that you wanted you wouldn’t have arrived here to my blog post.

But here you are.

It’s time to turn you into a text goddess.

Picture yourself as Cupid as you shoot irresistible digital arrows that ricochet off a satellite orbiting the Earth in space to his heart.

It’s time to take control of your love life with just the help of your phone’s keypad.

 

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Time to take control of your love life … with just the help of your phone’s keypad.

It’s time to influence a man’s feelings by understanding his mindset in love and relationships.

 

What he needs to hear from you to put you at the center of his universe.

 

I am a man.

 

I run this blog and I’m telling you that every man needs a woman as his sidekick to enhance his life, to make it better.

 

Us men cannot live life alone for too long.

 

We need you.

 

Text messages can influence every aspect of a relationship at any relationship stage, whether during the attraction stage or during the phase where you need to re-ignite lost affection.

 

Romantic text messages give you instant influence and power over his heart.

 

Time to stop relying on luck.

 

Let’s take a deeper look at why romantic text messages are so powerful.

 

Take a look at these sample texts and then let’s examine together why they get a man to feel different about you and to react.

Romantic Text Messages [Examples]

Why Do These Text Messages Get Men to Feel something, Think and React?

What text messages get men to react?

1. “How did you learn to lower my defenses so easily?”

 

2. “There’s this one thing that you do I cannot resist.”

(He asks what it is).

 

“How much you really know how to treat me like a lady.”

 

3. “You know, I just cannot stop thinking about…”

(He asks what it is).

 

“Your eyes. They mesmerize me.”

 

4. “I’m a little embarrassed to admit something.”

(He’ll ask for you to finish your thought).

 

“That I find you so handsome and adore that you’re a gentleman.”

 

5. “Something happened last night with you.”

(He’ll freak out and ask what it is).

 

“You looked into my eyes and I time stood still.”

 

6. “I can’t believe how selfish I can sound. Opening up your new business means everything to you. I admire your ambition. Thank you for spending time with me when you’re not busy.”

 

7. (Responding to his question, “What are you doing?”)

 

“Um, I just got out of the shower soaking wet. Can’t find my undies. Wanna hand me a towel?”

 

8. “I don’t tell you this enough how unbelievable of a father and husband you are.”

 

9. “Thank you for your patience with me. I don’t deserve it. I am fortunate to have you in my life.”

 

10. “You know sometimes I really just need to pinch myself.”

(He’ll ask why).

 

“To remind myself how luck I am to have such a passionate man with big dreams like you.”

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All of these text messages help you connect with a man.

 

They get him to feel something for you.

 

Each serves a purpose, crafted for different situations and for different relationship stages.

 

Some for the new guy you just met or started to date.

 

Others for committed relationships.

 

But what makes them special to man to get him to think about you, feel something for you or even to respond and follow your lead?

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Any guess why these above text messages work to get him to respond or at least why they begin to place you at the center of his attention?

 

(discuss in this section the importance of influencing his feelings and which feelings he goes through when reading these texts)

 

Because they address our male needs.  

 

These messages have meaning behind them to us.

 

And when these needs are met (or when we see a sign that a woman can meet them) we feel emotionally attracted to her.

 

You must learn what these needs are.

 

Likewise, when he sends you a text message that stirs up butterflies in your stomach it’s because it addresses a unique need that means something to you.

 

Without the knowledge of these needs, you rely on luck to find success with text messages.

 

The kind that capture his heart.

 

Women who tend to connect easily with men seem to inherently know these needs and how to “massage” them.

 

Let’s look at some.

Here Are Our Male Relationship Needs and How We Want to Feel Around You

In my eBook that I offer from time-to-time to my email subscribers through bonus offers, “Next Level Connection: 3 Principles to Develop Deep Emotional Connection with Your Man”, I go into more detail about the core needs of ours.

 

In my eBook I point out the concept of how to connect with your man in a way that stirs up deeper feelings for you.

 

Basically, by understanding his needs and how to show that you want him to be happy and that you have his best interests in mind he will want to enter a long-term relationship with you.

 

To him this will be more than just a relationship, it will be a partnership, a two-person team.

 

Keep in mind that in order for this “partnership” to work he must follow the same concept.

 

Great teammates give to each other and want to please one another.

 

I break down how to develop this deep emotional connection into three principles. 

 

I won’t go into too much detail now- you’ll have to obtain a copy later if you wish to know more.

 

You may not understand why some of them matter to us.

 

Perhaps you are the kind of woman who puts these needs down and brushes them off as trite.

 

But we feel them.

 

Always have and probably always will.

 

Each man has his own set of needs but these are pretty universally shared among us all.

 

But here are the three principle needs:

What Matters Most to Us in Relationships Is How We Feel Around You and  Does It Feel Natural to Be the Best Version Of Ourselves

I. The Need to Feel Good Enough to Our Women

We want to feel like we please you and that you feel secure and happy with us.

 

And that you will not wish to find a different man.

 

Here are some examples:

We Hope that You Like or Admire Our ...

Some of these, of course, you would want him to like about you too.

II. The Need to Feel Supported to Chase Our Career and Personal Dreams

We fear to commit to relationships partly because we need assurance that we will not face resistance to achieve the things that will help us feel satisfied and complete outside of the relationship.

 

Many of us have experienced or watched friends or relatives get made to feel ashamed and selfish for wanting to chase our dreams.

 

I guess in a similar way a parent attempts to stray their child away from doing something they love and matters to them.

 

Here are some examples:

We Would Like You to Support Our...

The next one is huge.

We Want You to Respect the Boundaries of Our Needs Outside the Relationship

III. We Want to Feel Respected

Respect us for the decisions we make, the way we go about solving problems, the boundaries of personal space and how the tone in which you speak and communicate with us.

 

Here are some examples:

We Want You to Respect Our ...

We Also Want You to ...

We do NOT want you to ...

Each of these lists could be much longer.

However, the important concept to remember here is to learn how to address these needs in your romantic text messages to him.

And also the pain points that you want to avoid in text messages.

Of course, do not just address his needs.

He must reciprocate.

You deserve the same treatment.

Part of getting a man to desire you and put you at the center of his universe is making sure he earns your approval and respects you in return.

And one strategy to do that is by getting him to chase (even if just playfully).

That’s why I fully believe in women learning how to trigger our “Hero Instinct”.

Our desire to feel needed, special and unique to you.

I cover that “the Hero Instinct” concept here. Check it out.

Knowing our deep core needs will pave the way to connect with men on a deeper emotional level.

But without the next part in this post, you will struggle to communicate what you want through texts (or even in person).

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The Two Keys to Get What You Want in Romance and Relationships with Text Messages

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How can you get what you want with texts (get him to chase, send you compliments, ask you out)? Do you just rely on luck and hope for the best?

If you want to succeed with texting men you will need to learn how to address our needs while balancing to get what you want.

 

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Therefore, you need to master two keys.

 

If you remember anything from this post, I want you to remember these two words: “objective and strategy

 

Do not just send random texts that express how you feel in the moment.

 

It will backfire more times than not.

 

Of course, if a guy worships the ground that you walk on and will follow you to the ends of the earth then you can text him anything and he will respond.

 

Ask him to kiss your feet and he would.

 

That’s not the guy you want anyway.

 

But you will need both strategy and objectives to get him to think about you and to react.

 

Strategy alone will not suffice.

 

Timing will also affect your texting success and make the difference between pushing him away or pulling him towards you.

 

Depending on your relationship stage: attraction, dating, relationship or reconnect ion, you might need to send a sequence of texts to achieve your objectives.

 

So, what do I mean by objective and strategy?

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Objective

What do I mean by objective?

 

I mean that you cannot just send out random texts without knowing your ideal outcome.

 

You should choose how you want the man that you send texts to feel and act before you just start jabbing away at your keyboard.

 

If you want to dictate what happens in text conversations, you must know what you want to specifically happen first.

 

Because if you don’t, then anything can happen. 

 

The conversation could go in any direction, usually in the wrong direction.

 

Then you could screw things up and scare him off.

 

Or send inconsistent messages with no purpose that end up in constant confusion.

 

Let’s take a quick look at the feelings that you’d want him to feel to show you what I mean.

 

Then we’ll take at even more specific objectives.

[Examples] of What You Want Him to Feel or Think AFTER You Text Him

(This is a random mix meant for various situations: for boyfriends, husbands, the guy you recently met or started to date)

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[Examples] List of Actions You Might Want Him to Take after Your Text Conversations

Your objectives will depend on whatever you want to happen next with your guy.

 

And that depends on where you stand with the guy- the relationship status and current set of circumstances.

 

Try to make your objectives as specific as possible or else you could end up text too much or the wrong things.

 

For example, if you met a guy you find attractive but you don’t know if he’d make a good boyfriend then you should aim to get him to ask you out.

 

Then you’d know for sure if you want to proceed to the next level with him.

 

However, if you try to get to know him through texts and begin to attempt to enter into long conversations via texts you could sabotage getting a date.

 

He might not like texting for conversation.

 

Then he could get annoyed and not ask you out.

 

Or you leave little to discuss on the date.

 

Find out enough about him to make the date go smoothly but do not overdo it.

 

If he does not proactively initiate conversations then that is a good sign that he does not want to have long text conversations.

 

Want to know more objectives from which you could choose with text messages?

 

Let’s look at a few more…

[Examples] of Text Message Objectives in Romance and Relationships

To Influence Men’s Feelings and Actions with Romantic Text Messages You Must FIRST Decide What You Want to Happen BEFORE You Hit Send

Some of these look at a bigger picture because some of your short-term objectives fit within long-term relationship goals.

Many of your texts demonstrate to him what you stand for and what kind of woman he should expect in a long-term relationship if you are in the stages of getting to know each other.

 

Romantic text messages can help guide a challenged relationship back to better communication patterns or back to the loving affectionate dates of the past.

 

With whichever objective you have in mind, you must text in ways that will make them happen.

 

 

That leads to the next key…

AFTER You Know What You Want Him to Feel or Do Then Choose the Appropriate Way to Write the Text Message to Make It Happen

Strategy

The objective is the “what”.

 

The what you want to happen.

 

Strategy is the “how to achieve it”.

 

We’ll look at some basic objective-strategy combinations in a moment.

 

Understand that learning to master to truly master the art of influencing men’s feelings is a long-term investment of time and practice.

 

It could require that you even take a whole course or study a long comprehensive guide.

 

I cannot cover all that material in one blog post.

 

However, I hope that this post puts some of that power you seek in your hands.

 

That at least, now you feel like you can dictate what happens in your text conversations instead of just hope for the best.

 

Okay, let’s now look at some examples how to apply strategy to achieve some of your relationship objectives using romantic text messages.

 

I want you to become your own personal Cupid and shoot those bow-and-arrow romantic text messages straight to his heart.

 

I want you to become a Text Goddess.

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Who to Use This Text Strategy On

Any relationship stage, but not for the early stages of re-sparking romance

 

All the other relationship stages, especially during the attraction stage or while dating, but before a committed relationship makes the ideal times.

 

Purpose of this Strategy

  1. To get him to engage in order to get a date
  2. Gauge if and how much he likes you back
  3. Gauge how responsive he is via texts
  4. Get him to engage for fun, flirty games to build up sexual tension
  5. Engage in evaluation conversation to determine if he is boyfriend material
  6. After the initial stages of re-sparking romance to share mutual appreciation or to seduce one another

 

All these purposes help you achieve other bigger objectives.

 

If your next objective requires him to respond; therefore, you test him to see if he will.

 

For example, if you want to gauge how much he likes you then you will want to test how quickly he responds, if he responds just as flirty back or if he begins to initiate the flirty texts.

 

Obviously, those are all good signs that he likes you.

 

Or one of your criteria for a relationship is to find a man who is available to contact and who will respond and openly communicate.

 

Then you’d want to gauge how responsive he is via text since that is how you prefer to communicate.

 

Wrong Circumstances to Apply This Strategy

During the initial stages of re-sparking romance.

 

If you and your partner feel more like roommates than a couple then you should not send texts that require (or appear to) elicit a response.

 

It will come across pushy and desperate.

 

You must warm up the feelings to reach that next stage where asking for a response is appropriate. (More on that in a bit)

 

How to Do It

The main technique here to get him to respond to your romantic text messages is to make it hard to resist to respond.
 

Base your questions or curiosity-evoking statements on your current circumstances.

 

What’s relationship stage are you both in right now?

 

If you just met, what signs has he shown that he likes you?

 

Has he paid you any compliments?

 

If in a relationship with him, how open is your communication right now?

 

How often do you text one another?

 

Would he expect to flirt with him or would it seem awkward?

 

If you do not know how he feels about you then start with cute flirty text messages first, nothing too sexy.

 

Rule of Thumb: if you cannot predict how he will feel or respond to your texts then you should send texts to see how he will respond.

 

Examples of Text Messages to Respond

Curiosity Questions/Comments

Make him curious to find out more.

 

“Guess what?”

 

“Bet you can’t guess what I’m doing right now.”

 

“If you gave me a magic lamp and I had three wishes do you know what I’d wish for?”

 

Compelling Questions
 
These questions work great when you want to know more about the guy and want to connect.
 
It also shows that you have substance.
 
They engage you in a more interesting conversation. It allows him to open up and express himself to show you what he thinks and how he feels.
 
These are not flirty questions and they have nothing to do with you, just about him.
 
 
“If you could transport yourself anywhere in the world right now, where would you go?”
 
“What’s the hardest decision you’ve ever made?”
 
“If you could ask any famous person in history three questions who would you choose?”
 
“What is some of the best advice you ever got and who did it come from?”
 
 
Provocative Questions/Comments
 

Here are the flirty romantic text messages. Check out the “Flirt- Make Him Chase” section below for more.

 

“If I were there right now, what would you do?”

 

“If you were a magic lamp I’d rub you three times- maybe more.” (If he likes you he will respond fast).

 

“I’m thinking about something that turns me on about you. Any guess what it is?”

 

“If I kissed you on the lips the next time I saw you, would you object?”

 

 Summary

Getting your man to respond does not have to involve flirting. You simply want him to respond, you don’t want him to ignore you. And ideally, you’d like to engage in back-and-forth conversation.

 

If you do decide to take the first flirty move then start with cute innocent flirting to gauge how he feels about you.

Who to Use This Text Strategy On

To get a first date with a man who has shown interest in you already. He has flirted back with you either in person or via text or both. If he has not flirted with you or paid you compliments then do not apply this strategy yet. 

Aim to suggest that a man take you on the kinds of dates that make it easier to engage and facilitate flirting, touching, laughing and getting within close proximity. 

These kinds of dates will steer you clear of the “Friend Zone”. Get him attracted to you as soon as possible.

This starts before the date by sending romantic text messages, but do not overdo it.

Save some of the magic and conversation for the first date.

Make the first date the highest priority.

 

You could also apply this strategy to get a more dates after the first one.

 

Purpose of this Strategy

To get the first date, or the next one.

Beyond just getting the first date you should determine if your man of interest will make for a fun date and someone with whom you can share an interesting conversation.

Of course, some men prefer to communicate in-person and will come across awkward over texts.

Therefore, stay open-minded, control your nerves, do not get overly selective.

Give the guy a chance because he’ll likely act more outgoing and lively on the date than over texts.

Getting the first date may require a multi-step plan of…

 

1) Engaging in text conversation to get him to share more about himself

 

2) Flirting with him to spice things up and to build up excitement for the date then…

 

3) Skillfully encouraging him to ask you out (if he does not pick up on your clues that you want him to).

 

Wrong Circumstances to Apply This Strategy

Suggesting you want to go out on a date before he shows romantic interest in you.

Examples of Text Messages Using This Strategy

Venue Advice, Followed By Suggesting You Go Together

1. You: “It sounds like know a lot of good places to walk your dog. Where would you suggest I take mine?”
 

Him: “Turkey Lake Park. It has great lakes views and open areas for him to run, as well as shaded areas for picnics to rest.”

You: “Awe. Nice! Maybe we could go together sometime. I’m usually available after 6 PM during the week.”

2. You: “Since you know so much about the best happy hours in town. Where do you suggest I go?”

Him: (He describes a place).

You: “Sounds fun! Since you know the place so well, maybe we could go together.” 

 

Follow up Comments to Suggest You Want Him to Ask You Out

Him: (He mentions a place he loves to take a walk and stop at open-air cafes.)

You: “Sounds beautiful. I think it’d be fun to go together. Maybe we could next week. I’m available after 6 Tues-Thurs.”

Him: “I love (name of place). It’s my new favorite to go on Thursdays.”

You: “I bet you’d make it so fun to go. I’m available next Thursday.”

Suggestive Date Request

You: “My favorite place to (name of activity) is (name of place). You’d like it. I could be your guide.

Or make it flirty.

You: “You’d love (name of place). I usually go there on Wednesday or Thursday nights. We should go. I could be your body guard and protect you from all the hot girls hitting on you. 😉”

Assumptive Plans

“So, when are we going to (name of venue)?”

“We’ve talked a lot about (type of place). When are we finally going to go?”

Creative Invite

(He has already mentioned a place that he likes to go).
You: “I’m probably going to take you up on your suggestion.”
Him: “Which one?”
You: “I want to go to (name of place) sometime after work next week. Maybe we could meet up?” 

 

Summary

Get him to talk about places that he’d like to go. Choose the ones you’d also like to go.

Suggest that you’d like to go together or in flirty way make an assumptive comment that implies that you expect him to take you out.

Gauge his interest in going out with you from how much interest he shows in wanting to get to know you.

Make it easy for him to ask you out.

Who to Use This Text Strategy On

All relationship stages, but not all situations.
 

Especially useful for early dating stages after you meet a guy and before the first date or only going on a few dates.

Flirting becomes your “go-to” method to get him to respond.

If he hasn’t shown obvious signs of attraction towards you then you should ease into innocent and cute flirting.

If he then follows suit and begins to flirt back then ramp it up some more.

Purpose of this Strategy

To test how much the new man you met is attracted to you. And once you see that he likes you, arouse him and then make it easy for him to ask you out.
 

In committed relationships to build up sexual anticipation for when you see each other in-person.

For re-sparking romance AFTER you warm him up with the strategy discussed further down.

Wrong Circumstances to Apply This Strategy

In re-sparking romance to spice things up too early. If you both feel distant from each other then you will need to ease into flirting. Flirting too early will most likely turn him off and thus deject you.
 

Examples of Texts Using this Strategy

Choose the appropriate situations to use any of the spicy, saucy texts listed here below.

Provocative Questions/Comments

“Guess what I’m not wearing.”

“Want to know what turns me on most about you?”

“I noticed something hot about you today. OMG. I can’t stop thinking about it.”

Incomplete Thoughts

He won’t resist responding.

“I can’t stop thinking about that thing you do.” 

“You did something yesterday and, hmm, I can’t stop thinking about it.”

“If I could just, hmm, with you right now. I’d…”

Emoji-only texts

Send clues about inside stories or jokes you share or just something provocative to turn him on.

🚗💋 

(Reminding him about last night when you made out in his car).

☔👭

(Reminiscing about last week’s date when you got caught in the rain and held hands).

🌙⭐😘

(Referring to your plan to kiss under the moon and stars).

Image-only Texts

I won’t insert any images here, instead, I’ll explain it.

Applying the same strategy as the emoji one above use images instead.

Insert flirty captions.

Send a pic to the guy you’ve gone out on a couple of dates of two people making out with the caption, “Wanna try this?”

Or a pic, or link, to the brewery you want to try out with him with the caption, “Next Friday?”

If you’ve discussed your favorite wines send a pic of your favorite right from the shelf at  the grocery store with the caption, “My place, couch and movie next Wednesday?”

Backward Texts

Play with him, tease him. Keep him on his toes. Make him guess what you are saying.

Try completely backward romantic text messages …

Ouy tuoba gnikniht.

Ssik eht rof uoy knaht.

Pil rouy etib ot tnaw i.

Or just invert the words but no the whole message.

Sdnah mraw ruoy deen I.

Centipede Words

One complete, sentence-long word to tease him and to get him guessing what you are saying, no capitalization.

Make them flirty. Send them while he’s at work, but only if things have gotten flirty (or been flirty if you’re in a relationship).

iwishicouldmeetyouintheparkinglotandmakeout 

letskissunderthestarsattheparkbench

canitryyourlipsfordesserttonight?

Hypothetical Sensual Situations

Have fun with when you are apart together.

He’s on the couch at home with his dog watching a movie while you work on your laptop.

You: “Would your dog get jealous if I massaged your chest and back?”

Or…

You: “What would you do if I it were me laying there next to you, and not your dog?”

Let’s say you were on a business trip. You’re in your hotel room after a long day of meetings. He asks how you are doing.

You: “Well, I just got out of the shower dripping wet. Want to help dry me off?”

These work great for any relationship stage including husband and wife being apart.

Summary

Ideally, you want your man to chase often. We love playful women who know how to relax and have fun. 

Just gauge his feelings. Test the waters with cute romantic text messages, nothing too spicy at first.

Only begin to ramp up the sexiness after he shows signs of wanting it. Save yourself the embarrassment of flirting with a man who does not like you in that way.

Of course, flirting can get a guy’s attention and to have the hots for you when otherwise he may not have noticed you.

We find it super hot when a woman we see as shy courageously makes the first flirty move on us.

Who to Use This Text Strategy On

For any woman wanting to get to the next level with a man she dates or is already in a committed relationship.  He devotes time to her and obviously likes her, but she sees a future with him. 

 

He treats her the way she wants and she finds him super attractive.

She wishes to bond with him in an emotional level only possible with someone she already loves or is capable of loving for a long time.

Purpose of this Strategy

If she wants him to feel an emotional connection with her and vice versa, then must learn our male emotional trigger points. 

What will make him feel special to her and what will allow him to feel like the best version of himself around her. 

Review the section above about our male needs and what our core emotional needs are in a relationship.

 

Wrong Circumstances to Apply This Strategy

Before he shows an devotion to her. Time is his most valuable asset. At the minimum he must spend time with her consistently.
 

Money matters as well, but above all time matters most to men.

Does he sacrifice what matters to him to make room for her in his life. Does he go out of his way to make her happy?

If he does something to hurt he does he take responsibility for it?

Does he feel bad when she hurts? 

Although, asking for help, advice or for him to fix something might make him feel closer to you.

Make sure to thank him and praise him for how helpful he is.

Examples of Texts to Help Develop Deep Emotional Connection with a Man

Again, please review the section above in this post regarding understanding our core emotional needs.
 
 

Provide Feedback after a Date

If you reviewed the section above like I suggested, then you will know that us men want to feel like they are good enough for their women.

We want to feel like we please you and that you have no reason to look for a different man. it makes us feel special, it triggers our “hero instinct”.

One of the best ways to show him that he makes you feel special it’s to give him feedback about the date he took you on.

Tell him how he made you feel after a date or whenever he attempts to do something nice for you.

“You’re such a gentleman. Thank you for a wonderful time and the pretty flowers. I look forward to our next date.”

“ I love your choice in dining locations. can’t wait to see where you take me next.”

“How did you know that I would like to (the thing you did on the date)? Thank you.”

Appreciation

Make him feel special and unique to you by expressing your appreciation of his treatment whenever possible.

“You really know how to treat a lady.”

“And here I thought that gentlemen became extinct. You’re proof that they didn’t.”

“Sweetie you really understand me. Thank you for doing your best to make me happy.”

Respect

If you re-read the section I suggested above then you will know that we value respect. No matter how much we like you, never cross the line (with the list of items above in the aforementioned section).

“You have such good taste in friends. And you treat your family well.”

“I know you need time with (name of his best friend). Thank you for inviting me but I want you to go alone.”

“I admire how much you go after your dreams and aspirations.”

Demonstrate Support of Our Personal and Career Aspirations

If he feels that you impede his chances of achieving his personal and career goals that the clock will start counting down to the end of your relationship.

Yes, he does need to demonstrate that he prioritizes you in his life or you will have no proof that you matter to him.

But never let jealousy push you to interfere with his time to build the other parts of his life outside the relationship.

“Honey, I want you to have time to finish your project. Let’s meet later after you’ve finished.”

“I can’t wait until you (something he wants to achieve). When you do we will celebrate.”

“That is such a hefty goal. What inspires you to chase that dream?”

Ask Him for Advice

Men cannot resist helping people, especially women. This too triggers our “hero instinct”.

And we certainly like feeling right. Ha, ha. Give him the chance to show off his expertise.

“I know you are so good at (his talent or skill). Can I ask you for advice?”

“Since you know (his talent or skill), can you help me with something?”

Or just ask the question straight up.

“I need your help with something. How would you handle (describe the situation)?”

Ask for Help with Tasks

The same concept as asking for advice but ask him to help you with a chore or task around the house. 

Moving a heavy item.

Building something.

Cleaning something.

Ask Him to Fix Something

And once again, the same idea as the previous two.

You can start any of these texts with something like, “I need some help with something and you’re the best person for it.

Summary

Us guys love to help and feel needed.

Fixing, advising and helping you with tasks or household chores makes him feel special. It gives him quantifiable value in his eyes.

Even if you do not need help, ask for it.

This is one of the best ways to earn points with him.

Thank him for his help and praise him for it.

The concept here is to make him feel special to you, needed by you and unique above all other men to you.

Who to Use This Text Strategy On

In a relationship that feels cold and distant but that you believe love still exists. You demonstrate that you care about each other.

You give each other time and go out of your way to get each other gifts.

Purpose of this Strategy

To reconnect through texts that show your appreciation and admiration of your partner.

To invite them to participate in activities that facilitate engagement. Do not just rely on texts alone.

Engage in activities that allow you to laugh, talk, share, touch or even work as a team.

Check out this post of mine that reveals the best first dates that lead to a second date.

The fun date ideas listed in this post can work to rekindle romance as they encourage active participation or something spontaneous and unique.

This will allow you to naturally work your way back to first date feelings.

To get back to how you felt when you both felt highly attracted to one another and expressed it effortlessly.

But it all starts with texts.

Wrong Circumstances to Apply this Strategy

In an abusive relationship.

Where lack of respect exists then you need professional assistance.

In a short-term relationship where he has not demonstrated any real sacrifice to make you happy.

In this case, you have not bonded; therefore, there is nothing to rekindle.

Example Texts to Apply this Strategy

Bring Back Old Fun Activities

Invite him to do something that involved more than just talking or watching. Again, check out these fun date ideas (they work for more than just first dates).

You: “Do you know something I really miss doing?

Him: “What is it?”

You: (the name of the activity you both used to like doing). What are the chances that we could do it again soon?”

Use some of the techniques I showed you how to get him to respond. Use the “guess what” technique.

He will struggle to resist answering you quickly. Ask questions.

They tend to lead to easier engagement.

You: “Guess what I miss?”

Him: “What is it?”

You: (the name of the activity you used to have fun together doing).

Date Wish List

Us men have trouble resisting a challenge, especially when it involves making a woman happy.  

Suggest fun date ideas, even if you’ve already previously discussed them

You: “You know something that I’ve always wanted to do that you’d like to?”

Then suggest an idea that involves both of your participation.

That’s why I suggest that you read my post on fun date ideas (or email me, I will give you ideas).

Getaway Trip Wish List

Mini-vacations can cure a stale relationship.

Consider anything within a three-hour drive or short plane ride away.

Warm up the conversation with something hard-to-resist replying to.

You: “Honey, I really need to do something different.”

Then suggest a getaway trip that you think you both will like.

You: “Which adventure excites you most? (Name three general ideas without going into specifics. Leave room for you both to come up with the details).

Act spontaneously.

You: “Sweetie, why don’t we live a little. Act a little crazy for once. I’m tired of the same boring routine, aren’t you?”

This statement will challenge him to do something fun and not come across boring.

After he asks what you have in mind, suggest you go out to eat at your favorite restaurant you haven’t visited in a while to discuss your idea.

Summary

Participatory fun activities will serve you better to begin to rekindle romance first before jumping into any kind of romantic text messages.

After you share fun moments again then you can try out the flirting techniques I shared above or the techniques taught in one of my favorite romantic text messages guide.

For Who and When to Use This Text Strategy

In relationships where you’ve discussed a future together.

Notice I said discussed, not presumed.

You actually talked about it.

If you haven’t then it’s time to gauge where he stands with you.

If he’s just biding his time while he figures out what he wants next with you, or worse, what other girls out there suit him better, then you’ll just waste your time and frustrate yourself by expressing what needs you want him to meet.

Therefore, this strategy works for the kind of relationship where you no doubt that you like each other and have discussed a future, even if simply express interest in still seeing each other.

The kind when you’re together and you cannot keep your hands off one another.

He goes out of his way to do things that make you happy, but something still lacks.

You the key here is to know without a doubt that he wants to sacrifice to make you happy- that he does not want to lose you.

However, despite his generous ways you still have certain needs that he does not meet on his own. You tried giving him clues, but he apparently does not pick up on them.

Keep things positive and moving forward, don’t derail your efforts by coming across needy or whiny.

But use detail in regards to what you want or how you want to feel. Us men want specifics.

Purpose of this Strategy

Encourage him to take action on his own that proves he wants to take care of your needs.

After all, you do not want to beg.

You want assurance that a long-term relationship remains a possibility between you two.

Or that the long-term relationship you’re in right now still has a bright future.

You’ve encountered a few bumps in the road, but let’s find out how you can drive around them.

Wrong Circumstances and Ways to Apply This Strategy

Do not, under any circumstances, no matter how hard he tries, engage in deep, long conversations over text.

You risk a huge misunderstanding.

Instead, invite your partner to speak in person, over the phone (if you cannot meet in person), video conference or read between the lines and start giving them what they want.

If you feel neglected in a relationship that you just began a few months ago then that’s a sign that you never discussed your relationship goals.
 
 
Without discussing your expectations early on then you risk relying on feelings and fun, neither of which alone will support a long-term relationship.
 

Examples of Texts to Apply this Strategy

You’ll notice that some of the strategies repeat themselves.

Sometimes it makes more sense to start from the beginning, to reignite the first romantic feelings that you shared for one another.

Some of these techniques validate behaviors that you support, that earn you respect and help you feel like a lady.

Think of it as a sort of training that reinforces the behaviors that you want him to repeat.

Appreciation for Specific Deeds (…so that He Does It Again in the Future)

This may require the technique explained in a previous section where you ask for help first then thank and praise him for his effort.

“Thank you for your help in the garden yesterday honey. You’re so good at it.”

“Honey, without your help yesterday (state the specific thing he helped with), I wouldn’t be able to finish my project. I always need your help sweetie, thank you.”

Appreciation for Feelings

“Last night was great honey. I miss nights like that. I really need them to happen more often. I love how you make me feel attractive and sexy.”

You: “Sweetie, you know something I miss?”

After he asks for you to finish then…

You: “How you used to bring me flowers. You always found the most unique and prettiest boutiques.”

Propose that You Help One Another

Everyone needs help with something.

Be on the lookout for something that you strongly feel would help him and that you could help him with.

Initiate the short text conversation with a question.

For example…

You: “I noticed something that you could use, that would make things easier for you. May I make a proposal?”

After he asks what it is…

You: “You’ve recently worked very late on that big project for work. With so much responsibility I’ve noticed that you haven’t been eating much. I have some snack items in mind that I could prepare for you’ll like and that will hold you over. May I share them with you?”

After he asks you to share the ideas, then follow up with…

You: “Then could I ask you for one thing that’s important to me?”

After he asks what it is.

You: “Could we do movie night this Saturday with popcorn like we used to? I have a movie in mind.”

Summary

Ask for small favors first, reward him for participating then state with elicit word choice what you would like to happen more regularly, as to not leave any doubt what you want.

Examples:

“Thank you for the flowers honey. You have no idea how special it makes me feel to you. I need you in my life. I’d love for you to bring them more often.”

“The way you held my hand last night at dinner sent chills up my spine. I miss your touch. I need it. It’d make me so happy if you did it more often on our dates.”

“Popcorn and a movie while cuddling on the couch is so magical. Thank you for such a special evening baby. It would make me happy if we dedicated one night a week during our busy schedules.”

“Thank you, sweetie, for cleaning the kitchen last night. It relieves me of a lot of stress. I adore you for helping out. I’ll give you a good back massage tonight.”

Two effective text strategies to get men to respond to texts come from the eBook Text the Romance Back.

They’re called Bait Questions and Curiosity Magnets

 

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Warning!

If He's NOT the Right Guy, Do NOT Waste Your Time and Energy

The Right Texts Will NOT Make the WRONG Guy Fall in Love

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Do not waste your time and energy sending romantic text messages to a guy who does not have time for you.

Love and romance means nothing if you do not find  the right man.

 

No text message will make him the right guy.

 

Sure, it could make him chase you, but why would you want to invest your time and feelings into a relationship that will end in break up or divorce?

 

You will struggle your whole life if you choose the “exciting, raging-hot bonfire” over the “slow-burning flicker”.

 

Play with fire, get burned.

 

Trust me. 

 

A lot of people who find my site end up here because they got burned.

 

They force love with the wrong person then years later find out the hardest way possible…

 

…an affair (they cheat or their partner does).

 

Don’t fall in love for the sake of falling in love.

 

Find the right person.

 

Invest time in finding out what that will person will look like.

 

The right man will ALWAYS think about your needs and in the moment he forgets he bends over backwards to rectify his mistake.

 

Why?

 

Because that’s what love entails.

 

A give-first attitude.

 

A team-first mindset.

 

The wrong guy will look for the closest exit door when things do not feel right.

 

And by the way, the wrong guy does not necessarily mean an immature one.

 

It could.

 

But simply it could just mean that he is not the right guy for you in this moment.

 

You two don’t make a good relationship match.

 

A good sex match- maybe.

 

A fun date guy- perhaps.

 

But when the dust settles and it comes down to the right mesh of personalities who will give each other the benefit of the doubt, then you need the guy who sees the bigger picture.

 

What’s my point to saying all this?

 

Do not continue to waste your time texting men today who will break your heart tomorrow. 

 

Simple and strategic text messages can overpower many guys’ senses, but why try to win a guy’s heart just to break yours later?

 

Right?

 

Romantic text messages will conquer a lot of guys hearts and get the kinds of responses you’ve dreamed of.

 

I promise.

 

They can even help you gauge if you found the right guy.

 

But one warning.

 

They have their limitations.

 

Let’s look at both the pluses and minuses of these romantic text messages that you can start to master by the end of this post if you choose to take the advice, practice and adjust…

Romantic Text Messages: Benefits and Limitations vs Face-to-Face or Talking on Phone

So, how can you take advantage of the positives of sending text messages?

 

 

How can you harness their power?

 

 

For starters you could read (or re-read my popular posts on my blog:

My Top Romantic Text Messages Posts

…but also I recommend that you acquire the right mindset to master effective texts whether flirty or sweet love ones.

 

So, that you can create your own text messages whenever you need them.

 

 

Therefore, you need…

The Step-by-Step Guide to Write Romantic Text Messages to Send Men

...to Make Them Chase

...or to Save Your Relationship

Text the Romance Back by Dating Coach Michael Fiore

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