Creepy Woman: Are You Creeping Him Out or Turning Him On?
Does he see you as a creepy woman or do you arouse his inner beast and turn him on?
For two months you’ve traded glances, pleasantries, admiration and flirty comments.
Or have you?
“Wait”, you think to yourself. “Does he know that I am flirting with him or am I creeping him out?”
There’s something about him that catches your eye and in your life right now you want a relationship.
You’ve cleared out the emotional garbage from your mental attic of all those past boy experiences and you are ready to move on.
And let’s face it.
You’re cute, funny, have a good heart … and, um, know how to get a little naughty when you need to.
Plenty of firepower to capture the right man’s heart.
BUT…
… how can you get him to see that?
How can you give him a glimpse of your inner goddess unless you get his attention, attract him and then keep him interested?
The Key Ingredient to Hook a Man
As a man, I probably shouldn’t tell you this because you can literally own us, but I because I have a major soft spot for helping women find true love, I will reveal to you the key to capture his heart.
===> Learn how to create a deep emotional connection with him.
That’s the secret weapon.
Most men do not even know this.
It’s a male mind hack.
It disarms us and transforms you into a mythical, exotic fairy that locks our attention on you, makes us chase you as you flap your wings and fly around.
You become the center of our attention and we suddenly cannot stop thinking about you…
… we are rendered helpless.
But how do you create a deep emotional connection with a man especially when he shields himself and erects invisible walls on all sides.
After all men are super picky about committing to women, they do not want to get over involved in something that turns awkward and tricky to undo.
I will share my secrets. The same secrets revealed by renown dating and relationship coaches.
BUT…
…first let’s stick to the topic of this blog post: how to avoid creeping him out and looking like a creepy woman who just turns him off.
I blended this list between ways women creep men out both for people who started dating and during courtship.
10 Ways to You Look Like a Creepy Woman
1. Affectionate Nicknames/ Pet Names: You Call Him Pet Names Too Soon, Before You Create a Deep Emotional Connection
Especially when you create what you think are cute names, but just make him want to gag. He grimaces when you say it. The first time you do it’s already too late.
2. Inside Jokes: You Create Inside Jokes Too Soon, Hoping He Starts Telling Them Too
It’s like you are just looking for a way to create a bridge between you two, but problem is he’s not laughing and sharing it back with you.
3. Facebook Stalking: You Think It’s Cute to Check Out His Interests … and then tell him about it!
You can find good info about him, but why the hell would you tell him that you did. Now he freaks out wondering where else you’re snooping around to dig up his darkest secrets…that he does NOT want you to know without asking.
4. Family, Relationship and Personal Questions: You Ask for Awkward Personal Details Before He’s Ready to Answer Them
Why does it matter if he does or doesn’t have a girlfriend? Or if you started dating already why would you ask about how he feels about having a family or kids? You are not the police, do NOT interrogate him.
5. Lingering and Loitering: You stop by his cubicle, workplace or favorite coffee spot shop while he’s busy to talk.
“Oops! Fancy meeting you here. I just happened to be in the neighborhood.” No, you weren’t. You’re just stalking him.
6. Inappropriate Touching: You ask for hugs and touch him whenever you see him … BEFORE you know he likes you
He isn’t cold. He doesn’t need warmed up. And I’m pretty sure you aren’t blind, you can see him with your eyes. If he doesn’t reciprocate the touching back then he doesn’t want it in the first place.
7. Invite Yourself to Eat Lunch with Him: You sit at his table without asking him permission
If he looks busy or un-amused then give him space. Even after you start dating, in the beginning, be mindful of his personal space or you will start looking like a creepy woman who only annoys him.
8. Talk Too Much: You can’t stick to topic, get overly emotional in conversations and spill your life’s news reel on him
Hint: just because he talks to you or even started dating you, it doesn’t mean you forget the social norms and cues. Most guys do NOT like an avalanche of chatter. It bores us and forces us to awkwardly get away when we don’t want to hurt your feelings.
9. Ask for Affection, Complain When You Don’t Get It: You ask him for love, attention and to tell you he likes/loves you
If he doesn’t tell you he loves you or thinks you are pretty then asking him to fake it when he doesn’t feel is one of the biggest turn offs to us guys. Let him say it when and if he wants to.
10. Talk about Yourself: You have no idea what he wants to talk about and tell him boring, strange details and stories about yourself.
I get it. You’re nervous, but it’s better to say nothing than to scare him off. Remember your goal is to make a connection with him, so don’t do the things that create a disconnect.
And this last one, # 10, is the one that stands out above the rest.
He sees you as a creepy woman because you don’t know what matters most to him.
If you did you then he would enjoy being around you more often.
In fact, here’s a list of things you should master if you want to create a deep emotional connection with him regardless if he’s your man yet or you just started moving in on him.
It’ll be a little easier if you started dating, but the concepts are still the same.
Don’t Act Like a Creepy Woman…
…Keys to Create a Deep Emotional Connection with Us Men
1. Discover the things that make him proud of who he is and use that knowledge to your advantage. Give him a reason to feel good around you and allow him to be his most natural version of himself.
2. Avoid the characteristics and topics that make men feel bad about themselves.
3. Stay clear of the relationship deal-breakers that turn men off like a light.
4. Conversely know the female traits he needs that turn “liking you” into “loving you”.
5. Know the signs he is likes you and tries to make you happy.
This post will become too long to show you how to conquer these above steps.
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[…] But at the same time, you shouldn’t look and sound creepy and scare him away. […]
Hey Orlando. Nice post on how to not come on too strong with men. What’s a quick way to let a guy know you’re interested without coming on too strong?
Great question Lana. I like it! Body language. A woman’s biggest asset is her smile. Some men may say otherwise, but they fall for her smile every time. Hold eye contact and smile. Make him feel good about something that he probably takes pride in. Laugh at his joke and tell him he’s so funny. I can tell a girl likes me by how often she makes eye contact, smiles, suddenly gets quiet when I get close and look at her. I wrote a detailed post on body language and how woman can use it to grab a guy’s attention. Please check it out and share your opinion. Would love to hear what you have to say.
Yep, you are so right about how we, women, creep men out. I think the most “popular” ways is the Facebook stalking and talking only about ourselves. Maybe that’s a sign of insecurity in the woman when she does it – making sure she knows he isn’t having too much fun without her, and talking only about herself to show the best before he runs away… When the real attraction comes when she focuses her attention on him and make him feel understood and connected to her. However, many women don’t realise they do more than half of the things you listed above. What do you think is the best way to find out if he’s creeped out, but there’s still a chance to fix the situation?
Rachel thank you for the thoughtful comment. Mostly by his responses. Does he reciprocate what you do? Does he text back, does he come up to you and talk, smile at you, tease you back, does he get within close range? These signs tell a girl that he is fine with what she is doing. What does his body language say? Does he turn and look away? If a woman thinks that she creeps a guy out then she may just be honest and put the ball in his court by letting him choose, “I respect your space and time. You make me laugh and smile and I’d like to hang out sometime. If you would too then message me and we’ll go have a good time. Bye for now.” I think we like the attention and admiration regardless if she comes across as a creepy woman and when says “goodbye” it makes me want to give her a chance and ….it’s kind of a turn on. 🙂